I was first introduced to Finland by my Mom who only knew the Scandinavian country by its Chinese name, 芬蘭. (Pardon the traditional Chinese strokes, I am in love with it.)
I was taught that was where Santa Claus lived and came from and only knew that it is a very, very cold country. My knowledge of that remained that way because I am not a very curious person and I am very lazy, until Tex and I visited Helsinki last autumn.
It was clean.. and simple. I tried so hard to think of an adjective to describe but "simple" hits me hard. I'm not going deep into their social structure because I'm no expert to comment but I'll just describe what I saw, as a traveller.
All their tram platforms were level to their tram carriages. It was practically effortless to wheel a pram into the tram. Adults who had season tickets need not whip out their cards to tap that often - only during their first leg of the journey. The fare that they pay initially would sustain for, say, about one and a half hours? So even if you are changing trams, just alight and board again, no more tapping. Don't find fault with my accuracies, I'm just saying it's rather hassle-free to take public transport. Besides, being cheapo Singaporeans, we winged our way through and forgot to pay for many trips. I don't think at Helsinki, anyone worried about not having enough space in a tram to bring a pram, much less to collapse a pram before you can hurl it onto the tram.
Ask a parent to wake his/her sleeping child up. The last time I did that to my niece, I got a cold hard stare from my sister that could turn me into stone and was made to babysit my niece for the next four hours. Let's just say I will never do it again.
Collapsing a pram before you board a bus? Not as easy as you think, CEOs of bus operators. Wake a child up, carry him, carry the bags, collapse a pram, board and squeeze into the bus with many other commuters and THEN fish out your EZ-link? I'd like to see the CEOs do that. Of course, it's not like there isn't a choice. We can also adapt and make do with the cards that we are dealt with. Hence many resorted to buying cars and.. the rest is history.
I've digressed. Truly a Singaporean at heart while I complain happily away. I just wanted to demonstrate how EASY Helsinki made commuting for parents. Even with my super big bagpack then, we had little trouble entering and exiting the trams and subways.
Then I came across this little article - Why Finnish Babies Sleep In Boxes. Apparently, "for 75 years, Finland's expectant mothers have been given a box by the state.
It's like a starter kit of clothes, sheets and toys that can even be used as a
bed. And some say it helped Finland achieve one of the world's lowest infant
mortality rates." Every year, mothers look forward to receiving The Box as the rest were left curious about the contents of the box. It was easy to know what year the babies were born in as the design of clothes changes a little every year. Well, to me, that sounded a lot more like checking out what your NDP goodies bag contained this year. Same same but different, you get the idea.
Now, isn't this AWESOME?! Talk about meaningful gifts, it's like someone from the government cares. So I gave this link to Tex, thinking he would enjoy it tremendously. And so he did. He countered me with this even awesome-r article - The Babies Who Nap In Sub-zero Temperatures. We finished the article with one common memory - there is no such thing as bad weather, just bad clothing.
As you can see, I am deeply fascinated with the Nordic way of parenting. Resilience to them is in-built right from a very very young age and in many aspects. Leaving the kids to nap outdoors? I think I like that idea already.
Erm, not in this haze lah.
Thursday, June 20, 2013
Wednesday, June 19, 2013
One House Rule When You Are Travelling
Be open-minded.
This is really important. If you have no idea what you are getting yourself into (by entering a new country), stay open-minded. Other wise, read up on what that place has to offer before you complain that it does not meet your expectations.
Don't come to Singapore if you are going to complain that there is no nice mountainous regions here. THERE ISN'T.
Don't complain there is nothing to buy in Hanoi. They are not famous for shopping.
Don't complain that there is no exciting night life in Perth when they offer awesome beaches and pretty vineyards.
In a nut shell, know where you are going and expect the appropriate things. Just like you'd read up on the weather before you travel to a new place, read up on what that place has to offer. Don't make noise when that place fails your expectations which were unattainable in the first place.
This is really important. If you have no idea what you are getting yourself into (by entering a new country), stay open-minded. Other wise, read up on what that place has to offer before you complain that it does not meet your expectations.
Don't come to Singapore if you are going to complain that there is no nice mountainous regions here. THERE ISN'T.
Don't complain there is nothing to buy in Hanoi. They are not famous for shopping.
Don't complain that there is no exciting night life in Perth when they offer awesome beaches and pretty vineyards.
In a nut shell, know where you are going and expect the appropriate things. Just like you'd read up on the weather before you travel to a new place, read up on what that place has to offer. Don't make noise when that place fails your expectations which were unattainable in the first place.
NEA Publishes Incorrect PSI
Seriously, does it really matter?
Does it matter to you that NEA publishes the wrong index as for example, 105 if it was 118? I was just musing over it that people are complaining that the index was inaccurate and were complaining about it.
I have my own gauge - from the view of my house, if I can see Marina Bay Sands, PSI is good. If I can't see beyond Suntec City, the PSI is not bad. If I can't see the Oscar-like building near Bugis Junction, the PSI is bad. If I can't see the blocks behind beyond those opposite my house, the PSI is fucking unhealthy. So just drink your water and wish for the best. Does it matter if it is 105 or 118? What do the numbers do for you?
Adapt to find your gauge or are we too pampered to just rely on governmental statistics that we have lost our own bearings? Unfortunately, I kaopei-kaobu now but I just checked on CPF website how much money I have in my OA. My money, they don't say, I don't know. Sad.
I don't give a fuck about how many degrees it is in Singapore. It's just hot to me. I don't check if it rains today. There's an umbrella in my bag everyday.
Surprisingly, as I was drafting this post, I came across one post from one of my favourite bloggers, A Singaporean Son. He doesn't label himself as a blogger, but fuck yes, he blogs. Nearly same sentiments over there, bro.
Does it matter to you that NEA publishes the wrong index as for example, 105 if it was 118? I was just musing over it that people are complaining that the index was inaccurate and were complaining about it.
I have my own gauge - from the view of my house, if I can see Marina Bay Sands, PSI is good. If I can't see beyond Suntec City, the PSI is not bad. If I can't see the Oscar-like building near Bugis Junction, the PSI is bad. If I can't see the blocks behind beyond those opposite my house, the PSI is fucking unhealthy. So just drink your water and wish for the best. Does it matter if it is 105 or 118? What do the numbers do for you?
Adapt to find your gauge or are we too pampered to just rely on governmental statistics that we have lost our own bearings? Unfortunately, I kaopei-kaobu now but I just checked on CPF website how much money I have in my OA. My money, they don't say, I don't know. Sad.
I don't give a fuck about how many degrees it is in Singapore. It's just hot to me. I don't check if it rains today. There's an umbrella in my bag everyday.
Surprisingly, as I was drafting this post, I came across one post from one of my favourite bloggers, A Singaporean Son. He doesn't label himself as a blogger, but fuck yes, he blogs. Nearly same sentiments over there, bro.
Monday, June 17, 2013
I Amuse Myself
Was reading another girl's Facebook status - she got proposed to and said something along the lines that she still felt very surreal and something in her changed.
My man-stincts came on and the first thought I had was, "Well, that can't be good?"
I always thought when a man proposes, he would like you to stay where (what/how) you are for as long as possible.
No?
Skeptical me, hai.
My man-stincts came on and the first thought I had was, "Well, that can't be good?"
I always thought when a man proposes, he would like you to stay where (what/how) you are for as long as possible.
No?
Skeptical me, hai.
Tuesday, June 11, 2013
Underestimated My Weight Gain :(
Looks like I underestimated my weight gain. :(
Selling these from F21!
Size M
Brand New with Tag
$26 mailed
Size 28
Brand New with Tag
$26 mailed
Shorts are mid-waisted hence do take note!
Hit on the links for more details! Got them from a spree and are definitely cheaper than getting them from another spree organiser yourself! Selling at a loss since I can't fit in them. :(
Feel free to email me at blackocea@hotmail.com if you need more measurements! :)
"How I Know My Wife Married The Wrong Person"
I am fully aware that my blog is now skewing towards one that is full of marital rubbish but I kinda like the way it is now. After all, it serves as a virtual reminder to myself about my own life so if it bores you.. too fucking bad.
Hahaha.
I recall there was a moment in my teens when I told a close guy friend then that I wanted a "轟轟烈烈的愛情". That was a result of watching too much 古惑仔 shows where 鄭伊健 seemed like the perfect bad boy lover. I did end up falling in love with one when I was 14, not that he was a bad boy lover kind, but he was definitely bad in the end - he cheated.
Truth be told, I was devastated but I am so relieved it happened. We could have never ever worked out and I was relieved that he gave us a chance to let all this go. I am a queen of cruising - I can cruise on in my life forever but thankful to that incident, we were done. As I speak, I feel no resentment, just indifference. Just like coolness is the absence of heat, indifference must be the absence of feelings. Well, that last sentence is a moot point which I am sure Tex is happy to debate with me.
I could go on about how a partner is supposed to be integrating into your lifestyle but not overtake as a whole, but that's for another entry later. (See what I meant by my first paragraph?)
Okay, here's another article that I found highly interesting and realistic. It talks about highly overrated publicised relationships that leads people to pine for THE perfect soulmate. There might just isn't one. You may think you are the exception. You are probably not. Let me know if you are finding the articles I am sharing full of rubbish. I will then.. advise you to get the fuck out of my blog. Hahaha, kidding but no, really.
Till then, enjoy!
http://crossshapedstuff.com/2013/06/04/how-i-know-my-wife-married-the-wrong-person/
Hahaha.
I recall there was a moment in my teens when I told a close guy friend then that I wanted a "轟轟烈烈的愛情". That was a result of watching too much 古惑仔 shows where 鄭伊健 seemed like the perfect bad boy lover. I did end up falling in love with one when I was 14, not that he was a bad boy lover kind, but he was definitely bad in the end - he cheated.
Truth be told, I was devastated but I am so relieved it happened. We could have never ever worked out and I was relieved that he gave us a chance to let all this go. I am a queen of cruising - I can cruise on in my life forever but thankful to that incident, we were done. As I speak, I feel no resentment, just indifference. Just like coolness is the absence of heat, indifference must be the absence of feelings. Well, that last sentence is a moot point which I am sure Tex is happy to debate with me.
I could go on about how a partner is supposed to be integrating into your lifestyle but not overtake as a whole, but that's for another entry later. (See what I meant by my first paragraph?)
Okay, here's another article that I found highly interesting and realistic. It talks about highly overrated publicised relationships that leads people to pine for THE perfect soulmate. There might just isn't one. You may think you are the exception. You are probably not. Let me know if you are finding the articles I am sharing full of rubbish. I will then.. advise you to get the fuck out of my blog. Hahaha, kidding but no, really.
Till then, enjoy!
http://crossshapedstuff.com/2013/06/04/how-i-know-my-wife-married-the-wrong-person/
Sunday, June 02, 2013
First Married Day
It's something worth commemorating since you only (are supposed to) get married once in your life time right?
Well, nothing special happened.
Hahahaha!
Crawled out of bed and checked out on time because Tex had to go for a match! Yes! Soccer resumes even though you got married the day before okay? Dedication 500%.
And when the match ended we were greeted with a surprise - the boys brought sparkling wine to congratulate us on our union! Definitely 喜出望外. :) Tex got so excited that he decided to spray the sparkling wine - AT ME! INTO MY EYES!!!
This spells definite excitement into marriage. =/
It was quite an interesting weekend, eh? Hehehe. Will be doing up Perth travelogues next! Stay tuned! :D
Well, nothing special happened.
Hahahaha!
Crawled out of bed and checked out on time because Tex had to go for a match! Yes! Soccer resumes even though you got married the day before okay? Dedication 500%.
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| Bright bright sun at Khalsa. |
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| The boys! |
And when the match ended we were greeted with a surprise - the boys brought sparkling wine to congratulate us on our union! Definitely 喜出望外. :) Tex got so excited that he decided to spray the sparkling wine - AT ME! INTO MY EYES!!!
This spells definite excitement into marriage. =/
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| First meal as I cooked for him as a missus. |
It was quite an interesting weekend, eh? Hehehe. Will be doing up Perth travelogues next! Stay tuned! :D
Labels:
Marriage,
Tex And Me,
Wedding Prep
Friday, May 31, 2013
Blank-o
Hello! I haven't been updating because.. there is nothing to update? I have little interesting things to share except my past glory where I have been buying a lot more than recently? Feeling the manpower crunch in my back account so have been trying my best to hold back!
However, I would really like to do more travelogues for my previous trips like Perth, Hanoi, Taiwan, Boracay and even Korea (hopefully). This will go wayyyyy back into 2005 because I like to revisit memories.
Also, I would like to congratulate Tex on getting full marks on his first lab exam (report?) after almost three years of hiatus from school! Looks like school has been treating you really well! I encourage you to do the same for your quitting of smoking, hokay? :)
Happy to report that we are entering June soon and I can't wait for July to arrive.
Okay, back to the daily grind.
However, I would really like to do more travelogues for my previous trips like Perth, Hanoi, Taiwan, Boracay and even Korea (hopefully). This will go wayyyyy back into 2005 because I like to revisit memories.
Also, I would like to congratulate Tex on getting full marks on his first lab exam (report?) after almost three years of hiatus from school! Looks like school has been treating you really well! I encourage you to do the same for your quitting of smoking, hokay? :)
Happy to report that we are entering June soon and I can't wait for July to arrive.
Okay, back to the daily grind.
Saturday, May 18, 2013
After-Party
After all our families and friends left the brunch, Tex and I adjourned to our staycation for the night - Swissotel!
Thanks to Clement, we got an awesome deal to commemorate such a special day!
Absolute big love to all my friends who showed up!
Anyway, it was Wee Kian who was our matchmaker!
No party is completed without some sabo-ing, which I think Tex was happy to oblige.
With so many photos of myself, I almost thought it was MY solo solemnisation instead of ours, haha. Tex was busy being a chimney.
I was really happy that night with most of my friends around and I am so glad Tex became fast friends with them! While during a large part of my relationship Tex was overseas, he never really had a chance to meet them and got to know them. Whenever he was back, we would only think about spending time together rather than meeting our friends. Hence, this was absolutely a wonderful night to remember!
Okay, off to the airport I go to fetch my parents! Hope to blog more and FASTER!
Thanks to Clement, we got an awesome deal to commemorate such a special day!
By the time we checked in, we were dead beat! Tex fell asleep even before taking a shower! I doodled around more before eventually succumbing to the snoozy monster.
When I woke up, Tex was still sleeping hence I went downstairs to Raffles City to tabao dinner! After staying off carbs for months, the first meal I had was Korean cuisine! Something about having hot food in a hotel room is very satisfying. Am I the only one who thinks like that?
Got ready to meet our friends at New Asia Bar - the highest-levelled bar in Singapore!
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| Yup, that's my dinner in there! :P |
Absolute big love to all my friends who showed up!
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| With Sze Ling |
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| Wee Kian, Tex's best friend Part A, who is also my poly classmate! |
Anyway, it was Wee Kian who was our matchmaker!
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| With Hong Jun! |
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| Sista!!! |
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| Hello Clemmie! |
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| Nicolaaaa! |
No party is completed without some sabo-ing, which I think Tex was happy to oblige.
With so many photos of myself, I almost thought it was MY solo solemnisation instead of ours, haha. Tex was busy being a chimney.
I was really happy that night with most of my friends around and I am so glad Tex became fast friends with them! While during a large part of my relationship Tex was overseas, he never really had a chance to meet them and got to know them. Whenever he was back, we would only think about spending time together rather than meeting our friends. Hence, this was absolutely a wonderful night to remember!
Okay, off to the airport I go to fetch my parents! Hope to blog more and FASTER!
Wednesday, May 15, 2013
Marriage Cannot be a Prison
I find myself really drawn to inspirational marriages and reading articles like this one that I am going to share, helps me keep my own in check constantly. :)
Hope this type of marriage inspires you to maintain your own (if it's your cup of tea). I know some couples who are on entirely a different frequency on outlook of marriages, especially on independence, but who's to say they're wrong? It's about knowing what you want and going forward to create and maintain that.
Only in my twenties did I realise that self-understanding is a big step to starting anything, anything that you want in life.
Take time to do that. :)
http://rollingout.com/entertainment/will-smith-explains-his-love-for-jada-marriage-cannot-be-a-prison/
Hope this type of marriage inspires you to maintain your own (if it's your cup of tea). I know some couples who are on entirely a different frequency on outlook of marriages, especially on independence, but who's to say they're wrong? It's about knowing what you want and going forward to create and maintain that.
Only in my twenties did I realise that self-understanding is a big step to starting anything, anything that you want in life.
Take time to do that. :)
http://rollingout.com/entertainment/will-smith-explains-his-love-for-jada-marriage-cannot-be-a-prison/
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